Relationships are often twisted and complicated and they may sometimes end in angry fights or bitter remarks. If you and your girlfriend had a break up during which you both said things you should not have said, then chances are soon enough you realize you made a mistake and try to correct it. After the spur of the moment goes away, you will see things more clearly and you may even reach the conclusion that you took a bad decision that is now affecting the both of you. For this reason, the idea of getting her back is likely to cross your mind. Of course, this may not be as easy as it sounds; since women are more complicated than men and once they make a choice it is difficult to make them change their mind. However, it is not impossible if you are willing to work for it. Most people think that fixing everything that went wrong in the first place is what they should do, but this is a process that consists in more than one stage. Here are some of the most important ones:

1. Focus on your life

The first thing you must do if you are wondering how to get your girlfriend back is to get your life on the right track. This may sound like a paradox, but it actually works. Try to come back to the person you used to be before dating her – after all, that is the guy she fell in love with in the first place. Use this time to learn something about yourself, then start focusing on your professional path and investing in your personal development. Although it may be difficult, the effort is worth it. Soon enough, she will realize you are the same great person she used to care about and she may decide that she also wants you back.  

1. Work on your attitude

If you have been dating this girl for some time now, then you probably still have a lot of things and friends in common. For this reason, if you ever want to have another shot with her, make sure you get the right attitude. Regardless what happened between you, be a gentleman and do not become a jerk as soon as you break up. She was part of your past and she may become part of your future at some point, which is why you must always be respectful, polite and mature. Avoid being as involved as you used to be, but remember to let all your friends know you still care about her – eventually, she will also realize this and see what a good guy you really are.  

1. Give her space

If you are feeling bad about the break up, imagine that she is probably feeling the same. Whether you did something wrong or the two of you just had an awful fight, she needs space to analyze her feelings. Do not insist on visiting her or going out, because all you are going to manage is to build more distance between you. After a while, she may reach the conclusion that she was better off with you by her side.